Yes that’s not a misspelling; I’m talking about a new take on Meditation called, Maditation. I should actually say it’s a lesson from Francesca, my daughter. The other day I was teasing her and Shiloh and we were running around the house being silly and Francesca thought Shiloh was getting mad, because she was barking. Francesca stopped and said, “Mom I need to go have a Maditation right now!”
I love that new word, Maditation, and wanted to share some thoughts and unpack this idea by first asking…
“What do you do when you get mad?”
When those feelings of anger, rage, frustration, annoyance, etc. bubble up for you, how do you handle it?
Think about that for a minute. Do you scream or throw things or do other conduct unbecoming or are you able to see it for what it is and shift it.
This idea of Maditation is great and it means having a coping skill or mental trigger already in place that you can go to when you feel anger and frustration…something that would decompress the feelings or situation.
Often, the word “trigger”, is used in a negative way, like when something happens that triggers you, getting you mad or upset. I’m using, “mental trigger” as a positive way to shift how you show up in a situation…When this happens, I do this!
-When I feel myself getting angry in traffic…I’m going to take 5-10 deep breathes.
-When I’m getting frustrated with my kids…I’m going to take a walk around the block
-When a situation starts to make me feel tense…I count to 10, to calm my mind
So, what is your Maditation? When you get “triggered”, what “mental triggers” will shift the negativity and lift you up? Remember the mantra…When this happens, I choose to do this!
It’s a choice! If a typical response to anger has been more anger or holding on, you know that can bleed into everything you do and spiral out of control, in your relationships and with your health.
When we can take a step back and look at a situation through a different lens we can be present to the lessons the anger is teaching us. It’s an opportunity to look deeper into the root cause and know that you are not your anger.
Anger is just an emotion, a mood, a situation, and all you can do is shift your perception of it and control how you react to it. You can stay in that mad and angry space or you can choose to shift your responses and behaviors to be in alignment with who you really are.
As you think about this today, ask yourself, “What is my Maditation?” Having a few new tools in your toolbox will help you turn down the anger and turn up the JOY!
“Nobody makes you angry, you decide to use anger as a response.”